Khloe's own style
A couple of weeks back my daughter Khloé, woke up in the morning and asked : Mom can i choose my own clothes today? Well, how could i say no to a sign that my daughter is growing up and is developing her own taste or sense of style?
Even though she is only 5 years old, believe it or not, kids begin to develop their personal style already in such an early stage of their childhood. Off course that their style can change just like we adults change our taste and style when years passes by.
By allowing your kids to choose their own clothes, you will start discovering other signs of individuality within their taste specially when they begin to demonstrate preferences for particular colors, patterns and themes. As parents, we should take this opportunity to engage with them and try to educate them about how clothes are produced and how we should take care of them instead of discarding them to often. It is indeed a great opportunity to teach them values about recycling, re-using and re-decorating their own pieces of clothes when they no longer want to use them. Specially for those items that they have already decided that they don't like for a specific reason. Let them decide how they would like to re-design that item so that they can learn to like it. This early education could prevent them from falling into the overcomsumption trap.
Kids who are allowed to dress themselves or those who help their parents pick their own clothes, can often develop a sense of accomplishment, which encourages them to become more independent and self-confident. Besides, the more they are allowed to dress themselves the faster they will become at getting ready by themselves and like this the morning tensions will slowly disappear. Isn't that a good thing? For a sucessfull outcome in this process, it is important that you give them time to practice when there is less pressure to get out of the door, like this they will develop and build also motor skills. Allow them to have all those wardrobe changes or to play dressing up because in this way you will be allowing your kids to develop creative ways of wearing their own clothes at early stage building up a certain identity and style.
Off course there will be times where you will have to make it clear when you will be the one deciding on what they should wear outside the house and what is appropriate. For occasions when you have something in mind, instead of imposing a specific style or piece of clothes try to present them few acceptable options in which they can choose from themselves. Allow them to make the final call, where you as a parent will be satisfied with any of chosen items.
If you are lucky enough you might even see them walk out the door living up to your style, but usually the outfits that they have chosen themselves are the ones they are most proud of. Even though you may be tempted to say, Are you seriously wearing one pair of different shoes? Just allow your little one to live in their moment of self-confidence and i guarantee you that you will be full of good surprises.